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Friends Make Mistakes Too by mylastel Friends Make Mistakes Too by mylastel
Let me share something about my personal friends. You know, my friends aren't perfect. They do things they weren't supposed to do; cutting classes, drinking & smoking, playing the "other girl" in other's relationships, flirting & kissing another guys other than their boyfriends, abortion, etc. But despite all that, I still treat them as my friends. But I have this friend who surprised me a lot. She now has a boyfriend, but the guy is her boss... and a married man.

She was my classmate and a close friend in 3rd year high school, and like me she was a prim & proper kind of girl - someone who "couldn't break a glass". We lost communication after graduation because we studied in different schools in college, but she found me on a networking site few years ago and there we started to communicate again, even texting each other. We always talked about our lives & experiences until one day, she asked me some questions I find "suspicious". I mean, it was weird because it was different from what we were always talking about. She begun asking me things like if I've ever been horny, if I kissed a guy already, and am I willing to be a friend to someone who's not virgin anymore (because our culture is so conservative and it's more "acceptable" in the society when a girl lose her virginity after marriage). I felt like she was only giving me hints of what she was going through, and I sensed with the questions that probably she was pertaining to herself and just seeking for assurance & acceptance. I asked her if she has a problem but she wouldn't tell me directly and would insist for me to come to their house instead. It was festival so I went to her place and met each other again for the first time after high school. I met also her visitors - 2 female co-workers and her boss. The ladies were singing in the living room, while me, her, and her boss left eating together on the table. While we were chatting, I noticed their gestures and the way they talked to each other. With that, it became obvious to me that they have a relationship, not just an employer to employee. I was in disbelief with my own thoughts because he's too old enough to be her grandfather! :eager: Like an anime girl, I was unable to hide my surprised look to them and stared at her and burst "him??" She told me 'no', and the man was smiling at me. When he went outside, I asked her again if they have relationship but she denied it. I sensed that she was hesitant to tell me all. But that night, she texted me with a confirmation that still surprised me. Her boss is her current boyfriend! Ahh! My instinct was right therefore! She's so pretty and I couldn't understand why she chose that kind of guy, older than her father and already married! Well, she told me he's caring & kind & understanding... and good in bed, so she fell in love with him. :stare: Funny! Her mother didn't know that her daughter's boyfriend was already in front of her. Yeah! Her mother doesn't know about it... yet.

Honestly, I was so disappointed with her. That was my initial reaction anyway. But who am I to tell her what she is supposed to do? I'm just a friend and I don't own her heart & mind. I was concerned with her but I don't have the right to inform her family or tell our mutual friends of what she's doing with her life. She's not a kid anymore, and in fact she's older than me, and she knows that what she's doing could destroy a family, and the karma might return to her. She just fell in love, I know... but with a wrong man! For her, maybe it's love. But for me, I think she's only looking for a father figure since her dad is a seaman working abroad. SOME people tend to fall in love with someone who has a huge age gap from them because they're unconsciously longing for a mother's or father's care.
Still, I don't support her choice of relationship because in every angle you view it, it's wrong! :la: Argh! I want to punch that old man to make him realize that he's already married and not a single bachelor! :fork: Anyway, it's her life and she's just living it the way she wants and she's only making her own love story; and I'm not responsible for her actions.

I just keep this thing in mind: All of us do something wrong in life, too. If she commits mistakes, I believe that it will teach her a life lesson in the end and she'll learn from it.
I told her that we're still friends and I accepted her for who she is and what she has done with her life. Years passed but our friendship did not fade and I'm happy that she trusted me. She's special to me because she's really sweet, nice & kind, and we have many similarities. In fact, our birthdates are close, she's Sep 10 while mine is Sep 11. I guess, it's the reason why we're still close. =D

Maybe love is really blind as they say, and she's now in cloud nine. But if one day, I told myself, if she falls from the sky, I'll be her "safety nest" to catch her so she won't fall broken to the ground. I mean, my ears & shoulders are always ready for a friend in distress. Ah! I'm not a perfect kind of friend, of course! Sometimes, I hate what they're doing, but I couldn't just ignore them when they're already down. It's not easy for me to turn my back just like that when I know someone is needing help (and considering we had good times?). I couldn't offer best advices, but I'm always WILLING to be there when they need me. Why? It feels good, eh. And for me, that's the job of a FRIEND - not to criticize them, but to BE THERE when they stumbled. ;)



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Oneovertwo Font by =oridzuru
Pattern 31 (background) by ~crazykira-resources
White Diagonal Stripes made by *Kezzi-Rose
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StevieAngel Featured By Owner Apr 11, 2017  New Deviant Hobbyist Digital Artist
Rabi-Star <3 <3
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Rabi-Star Featured By Owner Apr 11, 2017  New Deviant Hobbyist Traditional Artist
^^ <3
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StevieAngel Featured By Owner Apr 11, 2017  New Deviant Hobbyist Digital Artist
^^
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AngeCraft Featured By Owner Mar 2, 2017  Hobbyist General Artist
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Shellquake Featured By Owner Aug 8, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
Most of them don't admit to those mistakes.
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Skeletal-Loser Featured By Owner Mar 15, 2016
This reminded me of Sans and Papyrus for some reason . . . I must draw something related to this stamp !

YOU HAS EARNED LE WATCHER FOR AWESOMNESS
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neder3069 Featured By Owner Jan 13, 2016  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
WolfieTheHeavenWolf
Thanks dude. Many people don't approve
of having an online best friend, but I could care less. :>
Because you're a true friend, and I'd never leave ya.
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Great job on this stamp, dear. ^^
I'm totally using it ;v;
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WolfieTheHeavenWolf Featured By Owner Jan 14, 2016  Student General Artist
Aww, thanks dude c:
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neder3069 Featured By Owner Jan 14, 2016  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Don't sweat it, dear. You're very welcome. ^^
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Zamarozvannie Featured By Owner Dec 2, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
Aweh, so gonna use this and fav!!
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NightlightWish Featured By Owner Jan 14, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
I adore this stamp! Fantastic job!
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69SkullCandy69 Featured By Owner Sep 14, 2014
I read that like it was a movie. Just know that I appreciate your honesty and respect for others. It's sweet and you are a genuine friend.
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NekoNekoGirl04 Featured By Owner Apr 6, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
This stamp is so sweet... I like it a lot! :aww:
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KururuRyu Featured By Owner Jan 22, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
I totally love it! ♥♥♥

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unicornhearts0000 Featured By Owner Jan 5, 2014  Hobbyist Filmographer
I'm using this it's so sweet :)
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LightstaronToontown Featured By Owner Dec 13, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
You're certainly a true friend. I really wish I was as understanding and patient as you. I'll use this stamp to remind me to remember to be even kinder. ^^
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HurpaDerpaTheKiller Featured By Owner Nov 24, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
This stamp is so sweet. I don't know what'd i'd do without my best friend. :heart:
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mylastel Featured By Owner Dec 12, 2013
:meow: Eh, thank you! You're lucky then to have your best friend. Treasure him/her. :)
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YuMEZAsu Featured By Owner Nov 16, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
You're quite a wonderful person....And this stamp is so sweet! :'D
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Hawkieface Featured By Owner Oct 3, 2013  Hobbyist Writer

I happened across your stamp and agreed wholeheartedly with it.

 

And then I read the description.

Wow, that is moving and powerful! I'm so glad to hear that despite everything she's doing that you think is wrong, your bond is still strong and you're ready to catch her when she falls.

 

And, to me, that really is what friendship is all about.

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Have a llama for that inspirational speech!

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yoyododo1990 Featured By Owner Jul 2, 2013
Wow. That description, and that stamp. Im gonna fave and use this stamp!^^ And your right: Even the BEST friends make mistakes and bad decisions, lord knows I made plenty of them in my time since joining DA. But I never give up, I always try to better myself, thanks to the true friends who are always there for me. And I would always do my best to return the favor to my friends as well. :)
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FlakySnowCat13 Featured By Owner Apr 29, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Good thing im born in a country where that kind of relationships is not allowed...

And we would be like "ewww" if somebody told us a story like that XD
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DreamTheBunny Featured By Owner Mar 22, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Awww~~~ So cute! >U<
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LaurelineElberelth Featured By Owner Mar 17, 2013
After I've read your whole story, I thought that this is the true meaning of friendship. *clicks like button*
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RoseScarlet Featured By Owner Feb 20, 2013  Student Writer
^^
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TheTweedleTwins Featured By Owner Jan 30, 2013  Student Traditional Artist
That is sooooo sweet!
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mylastel Featured By Owner Feb 6, 2013
:aww: Thanks! :hug:
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TheTweedleTwins Featured By Owner Feb 9, 2013  Student Traditional Artist
you're welcome!
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Infinite-Carousel Featured By Owner Sep 15, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Your story rang so many bells with me. I respect you so much for being the way you are and still being her friend though you don't agree with her choice.
I have a friend who constantly 'falls in love' with guys then get her heart broken by them very soon after she's had sex with them. I always want to tell her this is wrong and stupid but for some reason, I know having love, even for short periods of time, makes her happy. So I just stand by and wait to catch her when she falls.
All of my other friends left her behind, so I'm glad there's someone else in this world who still stands by their friends even when they make a mistake.
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mylastel Featured By Owner Sep 16, 2012
Aww! I just know exactly how it feels when a "friend" leaves you just because you made something wrong... I don't want to do that with my friends as much as possible. What most people don't understand, our friends are just like us, they are sinners too who's capable of making mistakes.
This friend of mine, she's really nice but yes, I hate why she chose a married man. If I could only dictate her, why not? :laughing: But I would only appear selfish. She told me how happy she is, and she knows it's wrong. Haayy.. I couldn't hate her totally and leave her and end our friendship just because of that. :happycry: And I realized to myself I'm becoming more mature for accepting someone like that. Wow!
And that's nice of you to feel that way. Your friend is really lucky and I believe she'll appreciate and value you more once you stay with her in her trying times. Hope your friendship stay stronger! :dummy:
Thank you so much! I felt emotional all of a sudden, I think. =P
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Infinite-Carousel Featured By Owner Sep 17, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
:aww: I hope things work out well with you and your friend too, and that her situation ends happily for the both of you. I'm sure it will anyway!
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VintageChick121 Featured By Owner Sep 9, 2012  Student Writer
That story made me :happycry:
I believe in your philosophy too. Amazing message... May I use this stamp in honor of your inspiring message...?
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mylastel Featured By Owner Sep 12, 2012
Oh! :hug: I'm happy you liked both the story and the stamp!
Go ahead and use it! :la: It's free anyway, and I'll be flattered if you use more stamps from me. ;) Thanks a lot! Your comment made me happy, too! =P
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RockNRollGal Featured By Owner Sep 9, 2012  Hobbyist Writer
Aww :heart:
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mylastel Featured By Owner Sep 12, 2012
Thanks! ;)
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RockNRollGal Featured By Owner Sep 12, 2012  Hobbyist Writer
Welcome~:D
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el-e Featured By Owner Sep 7, 2012
very nice^^
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mylastel Featured By Owner Sep 7, 2012
:giggle: Hihi! Thank you so much! :tighthug:
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el-e Featured By Owner Sep 7, 2012
no problem^^ :hug:
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SpongeMuffin Featured By Owner Sep 6, 2012
As someone who is romantically interested in and dates men 30 years older than her . . . I really don't see what your friend did wrong and I don't see how it could "destroy her family" other than the fact that the man is married. I agree it's disgusting to date a married person, but the age really shouldn't be what you consider a "mistake." I'm 23 and find men 50 and older to be the BEST kind of man to date.
/rant.

Despite that, I think your stamp is very cute and a good example of friendship <3
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mylastel Featured By Owner Sep 6, 2012
"Wrong will never be right.. and sometimes, what you think is right can be wrong."

He's still married, and meaning to say, his LEGAL wife doesn't know that her husband has a relationship now w/ my friend (my friend told me of course):shrug:

For me, 50 is really too old. I mean, I'm in my early 20's and just started a life. And these people is near to their 'retirement age'. Psychologically, there's a big difference between young and old that may conflict a relationship. But ofc, it's still depend on the people involved how they'll work it out.

Thank you! I'm flattered. :)
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SpongeMuffin Featured By Owner Sep 6, 2012
That I agree is pretty bad. Old men are pretty hot, but not if they're married. I'd try to tell the wife if you could. Though might be hard to find her.
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mylastel Featured By Owner Sep 6, 2012
I think I'm not in the position to inform the legal wife. :giggle: I'll let them face alone their own problem. But actually, I could see now the 'scenario' once the truth revealed. :XD:

And honestly, I prefer men older than me, but at least 5 to 8 years. Older than that? ^^; Oh, I think a relationship will be boring. I wanna party, and for sure, if my man is 60.. he wouldn't join me. :lol:
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SpongeMuffin Featured By Owner Sep 6, 2012
Oh I love 60 year old men <3 Their hair, their wrinkles, their maturity, their wisdom, makes me wiggle with glee.
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mylastel Featured By Owner Sep 6, 2012
Really? :wow: Wow! I find it amazing that you could still get attracted to someone w/ wrinkles. :giggle: And yeah, I like their wisdom too, but still, only friends with them. :lol:
But at this age, some get sick since most of them are prone to forgetfulness, Alzheimer and illnesses that are related to aging. Aren't you worried somehow that maybe one day, they'll pass out and leave you behind? :noes:
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SpongeMuffin Featured By Owner Sep 6, 2012
My attraction to older men is mostly sexual, not so much romance, so I don't need to worry about them leaving me behind XD It is a sad thought though. Death ruins so muuuch.
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ArthurRamsey Featured By Owner Sep 6, 2012  Professional General Artist
Yah life requires extreme forgiveness. God set the example in the Christ..........Extreme beyond our comprehension but love required it. Love requires each of us cutting some slack for others. When we point the finger we are seeing something not just in somebody else but also in our own selves. I think sometimes that is what hurts but we don't realize we mirror each other and we all really have the same problem. This is the best thing I have seen today keep up the good work.
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mylastel Featured By Owner Sep 6, 2012
Yeah, sometimes we just mirror ourselves to them. And I've seen a lot of friendships that ended just because the other one can't accept their friend's mistakes, when in fact, we sin too, just different from them. =P

Hehe! Thank you so much! I think I've inspired you! :hug:
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StellaBlue2 Featured By Owner Sep 6, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
Cute! :squee:
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